I suppose this shouldn’t be my first blog post after a year away from blog settling in London. The life in London as difficult to imagine to anyone not living in a big city, though originally from Taipei and by far from my knowledge it is a capital, the London metropolitan charisma can love and kill you in one glimpse.
So…I was in Madrid this spring sampling the best of the capital at Mercado de San Miguel with the Argentinian girl I met at hostel whose bed sleeps right next to me. She asked me why I moved to London and about my life in London. I was pretty much under big pressure at that time and let it all out, when her eyes half watery with tear in a mix of enlightenment sparkle, knowing from heart that we are adventurous girls that traveled half the globe to find what we want and someone had led us to bond in the hostel at Puerta del Sol for this particular special moment.
In short, she said: “Life is all about finding, we find for work, we find for food, we find for love.” The last sentence “we find for love” shook me heavily as for some reason I always thought I can sing Coldplay’s A Sky Full of Star and it would be the shiniest twinkle falling from the sky.
Fast forward to now in London, I’ve been meeting and working on an experiment from a social app and real friend’s friend to know more about European guy. Here’s what they taught me:
1. Meeting guy is like an interview
No kidding that European guy is the nicest, funniest and quirkiest mankind I’ve met, but meeting them is another story. I’d always hear feedback from my friend of how European guy thought about me and if they want to hang out together further when there’s group event. So far I’ve passed all their tests and you can’t deny their sensitiveness about a woman, though it’s the same throughout the world, European do have a special lens, a one I am still trying to figure out what that implies.
2. Relationship no?
Of course not, we haven’t met each other and you ask me if we are in a relationship. I am really interested to know what stocks this man’s brain, revealing the truth- he is this one cute smart romantic guy working at leading investment banking. Investment banking? What happened to his brain on this side of the earth?
3. The dating rule
It’s not going to a nightclub where they suck you out, (well, perhaps that depends on the person as well) alternatively a nice rooftop bar giving your heart away to the city while sharing a drink knowing each other. The bill? Sorry, I didn’t know the rule in courtesy taking out my card to go Dutch as guys in Asia love the girl to play the gesture game, whereas the waiter smiley stared at this guy waiting for him swiftly say: “ I pay.” One of my girl friends told me it’s a rule in London as well, no matter whether they like the girl or not, the rule is- guy pay. (Fine, the waiter might have heard our conversation all night through and thought we were hilarious, haha)
4. His-story & Her-story
European really always have a lot to chat about as in many forms, any topics, you really have to be on top of the trend of the world, the community to have words to pitch in. Same as dating, I thought I would want to dig a hole as I am clueless where to start out this conversation as guys in Asia can really make things worst in shying away. Nope, not here, they’ll start off themselves introducing their story, then your story, as it seems if we have known each other years ago but starting all over again to know each other better.
5. 50 Shades of European Man
As in there might be mind game in the middle, however, their directness of what they want, what they are looking for really baffled me away of how straightforward(and honest?) they are, in which the play of a game of seduction had me thinking is there a Mr.Grey in real life? And no, I didn’t sign anything formally if you were wondering! Let’s be direct here as well- it’s a French thing, google up and you’ll find how romanticly incroyable they are.
6. Live at the moment
It’s all about that moment, that specific moment, when the feeling is right and you forgot how freezing the temperature just dropped over the night and the tube is nowhere in sight, the world is lost and all you remember is that Grand Central movie scene.
7. Meeting location
Undoubtedly guy will always ask you out somewhere public near his place, be the smart girl, you know where that would lead to and if you want or not. No more explanation here.
8. Tea or Coffee?
Don’t randomly talk about coffee, it’s the secret code! Well some know, and some don’t, but I would think they all know, and some just act dumb in googling them up! Foremost when a guy asked what’s your favourite coffee, and when you replied “Americano”, he responded his favourite is “Espresso”, the next thing you realised was “How can I be your specially made Americano?” Why are we making this dead Latin secret code alive? And- choose beans not make Americano you sweetheart!
9. Figure is a sexy diplomat
How you dress, how you talk, and your figure speaks about you entirely. It is a world culture, but where human DNA body figure differs due to regions, I always admire European of their boneless structure. Forget about their boneless, go exercise, peach emoji, London does have its pressure as walking out of your door, everyone represents their region, their nation, it’s a diplomatic etiquette. But I suppose I know another reason of this diplomat. Welcome to London!
10. No subject
To conclude, I do like how straightforward Europeans are, my friend laughs at me saying I am one hella kind of Southern European and is on my way to explore London in a fascinating way. True, as next month mark my 1 year in London and the first year was really hectic, still now it has it’s hard part, but hey- if I haven’t come out of my sweet home comfort zone in Asia, how would I know the world is my oyster and you met a random guy on the app meeting in person and realised you both share the same birthday? The world is unbelievable, and to be in London meeting nice and crazy men are one of the craziest as well.
ps- perhaps I have a qurikiness writing these kinds of topic other than traveling?
一切的故事來自於五月的西班牙旅行。在太陽廣場的hostel邂逅同樣一個人來旅行的阿根廷女孩，十點垂幕我們到Mercado de San Miguel饗食首都裡最熱鬧繽紛的美食市集，聊著彼此的文化，我為何到倫敦以及在倫敦做什麼。人的緣份是一件難能可貴的事，各自飛了半個地球遠在這城市相遇，心心相席的感覺猶如一見如故，她聽了我的故事後，淚水半濕的在眼匡打轉，似乎和她的生命產生了共鳴，在尋找那不可思議的線索。
那一晚她令我留下印象最深刻的一句話是 “Life is all about finding, we find for work, we find for food, we find for love.” 尤其最後一句 “we find for love” 猶如當頭棒喝把我的頭不知扎了幾回，讓我夢幻似的以為唱著Coldplay A Sky Full of Star，夜晚最閃亮的星會自己掉下來許出我的願望。
歐洲人非常會聊天，上知天文，下知地理，隨時都要知道國際時事，周遭發生的新鮮事及補充自己的內涵來加入任何討論話題。以為會乾到不行的約會，讓人想起在亞洲有一些人的聊天內容實在會恨不得人間蒸發，但這一次是我自己超怕尷尬的很想找勺子鑽地洞⋯⋯⋯卻忘了歐洲人會展現天性的主動找話題聊，以this is my story, what’s your story 來瞭解彼此，本以為會尷尬不行的夜晚，頓時變得有趣似久違的朋友從新認識彼此。